Tall Poppy Syndrome

I first heard the term a little over 4 years ago when I walked in the door of my psychologists office. 

I was completely lost and I desperately wanted to change my life. 

But I had a problem.

I was terrified of what everyone would think if I was to do anything differently.

I was 25, uneducated, a heavy drinker and I didn’t know the slightest thing about myself. 

Where to go and what to do? 

I didn’t know, and worst of all, I lacked the confidence to try and find out. 

I told my psychologist my problems and he gladly listened.

After 45 minutes he asked me; 

“Paul, do you know what a field full off Poppies do to another Poppy that grows higher than the rest?”

I didn’t know and asked him to shed some more light on it. 

“They attack it, they cut it back down to size, he said.”

I was still a little unsure of the point he was trying to get across so I asked him to explain a little further. 

“You see Paul, he continued, when you start to seperate yourself from your friends and your peers and begin to grow a little higher than the rest, you are going to always have a field full off poppies trying to cut you back down to size.” 

This was a valuable lesson and one that has helped me move forward in many uncomfortable situations when usually I’d be worried about what everyone else would think.

You see whenever you stand out, there’s always going to be people that are going to try and cut you back down to size.

It’s inevitable – people would rather that you live a small life because you standing out only makes them feel even smaller. 

So whenever you are faced with a position that you want to move forward in, you’ve got two options; 

1️⃣ Bend to all the other poppies and stay in a position of unhappiness and un-fulfilment. 


2️⃣ Get stronger and continue to reach for the light. 

The latter is what gives you strength, hope and confidence and the former is what leads you to living an ordinary life.

So the question really relies on you. 

Stay stuck where you are unhappy or reach for the light? 

For you’ll be attacked, criticised and humiliated but it’s still better than pretending to be someone your not! 

For more help, head to; https://paulkilroyfitness.com/fit4life-mentoring/

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